10 pros and cons of dating older men

Anyone who’s been in a serious long-term relationship knows the journey isn’t without certain challenges. Add a significant age gap into the mix—we’re talking a decade or more—and you’ve probably experienced the highest of highs and the lowest of lows.

And while cliché dictates that, sure, men are into it, there’s been some recent research done about why younger females often gravitate toward mature men.

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If you are a young girl about to tow the same line and lack little knowledge in that sphere, here are 10 pros and cons of dating older men to consider before finally making up your mind.

Pros

He’s More Experienced in Life: Whether it’s in his career, knowledge acquired overtime, relationships or even in the bedroom, this man knows what he’s doing and knows what he wants. He’s confident and can teach you a thing or two with his advice.

He’s Financially Secure: He may be older, but he’s learned a lesson or two about making money, saving money and balancing his checkbook. He cares about his future and even retirement.

He’s Emotionally Stable: The older men are the calmest human beings. He’s been through multiple ups and downs in relationships, and his feelings are in check. Plus, he’s a great listener.

He Loves Romance: With endless kisses, hugs and soft lit candles, he goes the distance to make sure you are happy and satisfied.

You Look Good Together: Besides feeling good together in public, you look great together, too. Even though there have been those people who have judged, you’ll be surprised that there are more people on your side than you think.

Cons

He’s Set in His Ways: This is probably the most challenging thing to overcome when dating an older guy. With him, what you see is what you get. Although you can’t change a man (or even a woman for that matter), the key is to bend for one another so both of your needs are fulfilled.

He’s Afraid of Commitment: When you come across an older man and learn he’s single, have you ever found yourself saying to your friends, “There’s a reason he’s alone and still single”? There’s always a reason, but the best thing is not to push. If it’s meant to be, it will be. For now, have fun and see where it might lead.

He Gets Compared To a Father Figure: This comment might make him and even you feel insecure. The important thing is how you two feel about one another and the good times you share. And don’t call him an “old man,” even if you’re joking; it will only make matters worse!

He Feels He Has “Power” in the Relationship: Personally and professionally, he has one up on you and may think only he has a right to call the shots in the relationship. It’s nice once in a while to let the man take the lead, but it shouldn’t be a power struggle. You both have something equally to give one another.

He’s Not the Life of the Party: He loves spending time with you, but may want to call it an early night instead of going to the next big party. Try to find the balance between going out and staying in.

 

 

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