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7 big insecurities guys have in a relationship

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7 big insecurities guys have in a relationship

Guys aren’t meant to have insecurities, right? Insecurities are meant for women who aren’t sure whether a guy really likes them, and if he’s just testing the waters before making his move once a prettier girl comes along.

But despite their patriarchal role, their alpha-male mindset and their masculinity, guys do have insecurities. After all, they are humans.

Listed below are seven big insecurities guys have that most girls really do not know.

Your Previous Boyfriends: Before dating your man, it’s likely that you already had a few boyfriends. He knows this, even if you haven’t mentioned them specifically. But what he really wants to know is how he measures up compared to them. Is he as good looking? Is he as smart? Is he as charming? Does he have stronger muscles?
You might not realise it, but guys do worry about such things. They know you’ve obviously enjoyed relationships in the past, but they really want to make sure that you’re enjoying this one more.

Lack Of Achievement: The worst thing you can say to a guy is “I really admire such-and-such because of how successful he is.” Why? Because your man will start to look at his own lack of achievements. And it might get him down. Guys are meant to be the breadwinners. They’re the achievers who win at life and impress us with their success.
But if they haven’t got many achievements to speak of, they’re going to feel insecure and threatened by others.

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Hair Loss: Hair is really important to some women – not just their own, but also the hair on their partner’s head. Some women will even stipulate that they don’t date bald men on their dating site profile. And this can make guys feel really insecure.

As they get older, lots of guys do experience hair loss. Some experience it in their early twenties, while some are affected in their forties or fifties.

Not Being Able To Fix Things: It’s one thing for a guy to not be able to fix something in front of his woman, but it’s made even worse when you ask another man to come over and sort it out. It’s plain embarrassing and makes a man feel inferior and worthless.

Lacking Control: If a man cannot see his future and has no control over his life, he feels super uncomfortable; uncertainty is not something they do well. They’re supposed to provide security and stability. If they can’t do that, they don’t feel so great.

They Worry They’re Not Enough: Your man wants to please you. He wants to be enough for you. But he doesn’t know if he stimulates you intellectually enough. He worries that he doesn’t make you laugh enough. He worries that he’s getting older and losing his hair. In short, he’s not sure if he’s good enough.

They Need Approval: Sometimes, when a guy texts you to tell you that you look pretty, he’s actually fishing for reassurance. He wants you to text him back telling him that he’s handsome, too. As confident as guys often appear, it sometimes disguises the truth. Guys need reassurance, and they seek it from girls.
Sometimes, for example, a man might go from relationship to relationship in a desperate bid to prove to himself that women still find him desirable.

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