8 tips on how to cope with being single and lonely

Everyone has suffered loneliness at some point or another, even those who are in otherwise happy relationships. But we feel loneliness much more acutely when we’re single.

Especially, if you’ve been single for quite some time, the pain of loneliness can begin to really eat away at you. Returning home night after night to an empty house is not nice, and it can be made worse when you see photographs on Facebook of your friends with their partners.

If you feel lonely and just don’t know how to go about getting over it, listed below are eight tips on how to cope with being single and lonely.

Treat Yourself: All the money you’re making right now is for you. You don’t have to worry about saving for a mortgage with a guy, a vacation or kids – it’s all for you. So why not spend like there’s no tomorrow? Treat yourself! You deserve it.

Listen To Positive Music: It might sound simple, but good, positive music really can change your mood and stop you from feeling so lonely. Get up and dance in your own home like no one’s watching.

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Improve Yourself: If you’re single and feeling lonely, show the world exactly what it’s missing! Grow your knowledge base. Treat yourself to a new hair cut and some new clothes. Be the best you can be at all times. Give yourself some confidence and get yourself prepared for when Mr Right comes along.

Reach Out: One of the reasons why begin to feel lonely when we’re single is that we tell ourselves that everyone is happy in their relationships and has no time for us anymore. So we retreat ever further into our bubble and grow reclusive. Not only is this unhealthy, but it exacerbates our loneliness. And the truth is that your friends DO have time for you. They’re just waiting for you to get in touch and ask them to go out and do something.

Examine Your Habits: When we’re single and feeling lonely, it can be very easy to feel sorry for ourselves. And when we start doing this, we indulge in habits that just make things worse. For example, perhaps we cut ourselves off from other people, make dramatic statuses on Facebook, gorge on chocolate, or even take time off work because we can’t face the world.

Take Up Some Good Habits: It’s not enough that you simply lose your bad habits – you should make an effort to swap them for positive ones. Instead of staying indoors all the time, go outside and see people. Instead of gorging on chocolate, go to the gym. Exercise. Get fit.

Make The Most Of The Single Life: What are some things you can do while single that you wouldn’t be able to do if you were in a relationship? I can think of a few: Go without make-up all day, pig-out with a box seat, wear pyjamas from morning until night, watch rubbish television and so on and so on. Mr Right will come around eventually. For now, make the most of the single life.

 
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