Rights activist, Sonia Obi-Okodo has opened up on how her uncle who came to live with her family in Lagos subjected her to serial sexual abuse while she was just five-years old.
In what has turned out to be a season of coming out of the closed for many abused rape victims, Sonia took to her Facebook page to render a lengthy account about how her violator, Dike Obi who is her father’s half kid brother, took advantage of her while she was young.
According to her, it all started when as a five-year old, she was spanked by her elder sister for something she did and after she was reprimanded, Dike called her aside and told her he had something that would make her bigger and unbeatable.
She wrote on her Facebook page; “The first time keeps ringing in my head like church bell. He pulled down his trouser (He was never one to wear shirts at home), Brought out his Manhood and commanded me to suck. He ejaculated in my mouth and asked me to swallow what he referred to as “Yoghurt and Milk” (Semen). I did. I wanted to grow big. I didn’t know it was wrong and I was just 5. It progressed to “Blue films” and asking me to watch and learn from those women in the movie. I did. I wanted to grow big
REALIZATION: “My Parents always said only the guilty hide. One day, during the milk extraction and swallowing exercise, The gate moved. The speed at which he got up,wiped my mouth and adjusted everything made him look like the speed of light. I wasn’t sure why since he was nourishing me to grow but I kept mute.
“Next up, my eldest got spanked by my aunt. She was crying so much and I went to him to ask if he could give her some milk to grow big. The way he screamed at me, I could feel the fire from his eyes that flowed to his lips as he threatened me. He said he would kill my daddy. My dad has a small frame, this ebubedike is tall and huge, He would kill my father (I thought in my little mind). I and my Father have a bond. I am daddy’s girl. So saying that, He got my attention.
OPENING UP: “Years went by and he continued, this time forcing his way with his fingers through my innocence. Then One day, I asked my cousin Ogechukwu “Am I growing big?” I mean I still get spanked up and down. She looked at me, laughed and said “You look your age na” Hey God! After all the milk and yoghurt? Then I opened up. I told her everything. Oge went from red, to purple, to Pink and back to her fair complexion. She was silent. I don’t remember how it went but I know he left our house for good shortly after.
EFFECTS: “My studies failed woefully. I was distracted. Addiction to Ponography, Emotional imbalance. I was a troubled teen. I had the worse kind of bitterness that no one understood. They say your anger no fit boil stone. My temper could boil a rock. A little confrontation would lead to the worse kind of Physical abuse from me. I was Judged. No one understood. People said I was possessed. I trusted no one. I grew up Fast.
“This abuse opened me up to more abuse. I got married and as I watched my children grow, I became paranoid. I was diagnosed with PTSD. I had relapses, Suicide Ideations. I would stay weeks without seeing my kids or having a bath because I just want to die. Tobore Anne got me help. Tobore Mit Ovuorie got me Free sessions for therapy and I got my drugs at absolutely no cost. I was ashamed of my past but I learned to speak. I got redemption.
“I found out Ebubedike had abused other kids after me, Boys and girls. Some my Cousins, others relatives. Unfortunately, he lives with his underage daughter and I fear she might be a victim. I beat myself up for not speaking earlier. Maybe my cousins and other kids would have been saved or maybe not. Some have been bullied to silence like they have been doing in recent times to me. So I speak for others. NEVER AGAIN!
The revelation by Sonia Obi-Okodo comes days after Ghanaian nay Nollywood actress Juliet Ibrahim also joined the growing list of women who have taken the courage to come out of their closets to share their rape experiences as young girls.
The thespian who was on a media tour for her new book “A Toast to life” took the courage to reveal during a radio interview with Cool FM on Thursday, that she was first abused sexually at the age of eight by her grand uncle.
Juliet who was formerly married and has countless movie features under her belt both in Ghana and Nigeria, also informed that after her uncle, her male cousins started taking advantage of her sexually.
She also recounted how she turned down the chance to marry a US-based suitor at the age of 18 because she wanted to fulfill her dream of becoming a superstar in her line of chosen profession.
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