Nigeria In One Minute

Surprising health benefits of arguing with your partner

Published

8 years ago

March 17, 2016

Surprising health benefits of arguing with your partner

Could arguments actually be good for your health? That seems to be the case, as there are health benefits of arguing with your partner.

The idea is a pretty simple, and applies to just about every relationship in our lives: our bosses, co-workers, significant others, or our children. If we’re taking action to avoid confrontation with people, we may be making ourselves susceptible to physical problems, more than we’d have if we actually saw the argument through to the end.

It sounds counter-intuitive, but it actually makes a kind of sense. It turns out that avoiding arguments can contribute to more erratic levels of cortisol in the human body. Cortisol is a hormone that accompanies stress, increases blood sugar, suppresses the immune system, and decreases bone formation, and arguing may actually help to keep it in check.

With that, let’s take a look at the psychology – as well as the physiology – behind one of our favorite pastimes.

A Look At The Data

Studies confirmed that married couples who avoid confrontation may have shorter life expectancies than those who allow themselves to argue. A newer study, presented at the 118th Annual Convention of the American Psychological Association, builds on that research.

A Right And Wrong Way To Argue

At this point it’s worth noting that for one, there’s a right and a wrong way to argue. Secondly, not every argument is worth having.

There’s a difference between fighting and arguing. Arguing can lead to improved feelings of intimacy, while fighting leads to precisely the opposite.

Arguing with somebody you care about is a unique opportunity to get inside their head and to approach an understanding of where they’re coming from. It’s a way of broadening our horizons and getting to know the people in our lives a little bit better.

You may be tempted to interrupt, or raise your voice, or engage in personal attacks. As argument styles go, this isn’t going to be helpful. Doing so escalates your argument into fight territory, which isn’t healthy for any of the involved parties. Arguing is about listening as much as it is about speaking. It can be surprisingly democratic, all things considered.

At the end of the day, arguing is just one of many tools in the healthy relationship guidebook. Use it sparingly – but more than that, use it wisely.

Join the conversation

Opinions

Support Ripples Nigeria, hold up solutions journalism

Balanced, fearless journalism driven by data comes at huge financial costs.

As a media platform, we hold leadership accountable and will not trade the right to press freedom and free speech for a piece of cake.

If you like what we do, and are ready to uphold solutions journalism, kindly donate to the Ripples Nigeria cause.

Your support would help to ensure that citizens and institutions continue to have free access to credible and reliable information for societal development.

Donate Now