Why co-parenting is best option after a divorce

The term ‘co-parent’ may be used to describe a situation where, following divorce or separation, the child’s parents seek to maintain equal or equivalent responsibility for the child’s upbringing.

Co-parenting amicably with your ex can give your children stability and close relationships with both parents—but it’s rarely easy. Putting aside relationship issues to co-parent agreeably can be fraught with stress.

Despite the many challenges though, it is possible to develop a cordial working relationship with your ex for the sake of your children.

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It may be helpful to start thinking of your relationship with your ex as a completely new one—one that is entirely about the well-being of your children, and not about either of you. Your marriage may be over, but your family is not; doing what is best for your kids is your most important priority.

The first step to being a mature, responsible co-parent is to always put your children’s needs ahead of your own.

Co-parenting: Why it is the best option;

Through your parenting partnership, your kids should recognize that they are more important than the conflict that ended the marriage—and understand that your love for them will prevail despite changing circumstances. Kids whose divorced parents have a cooperative relationship:

Feel secure: When confident of the love of both parents, kids adjust more quickly and easily to divorce and have better self-esteem.

Benefit from consistency: Co-parenting fosters similar rules, discipline, and rewards between households, so children know what to expect, and what’s expected of them.

Better understand problem solving: Children who see their parents continuing to work together are more likely to learn how to effectively and peacefully solve problems themselves.

Have a healthy example to follow: By co-operating with the other parent, you are establishing a life pattern your children can carry into the future.

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