7 Steps to being a more effective parent

Raising kids is one of the toughest and most fulfilling jobs in the world — and the one for which you might feel the least prepared.
Here are some child tips that can help you feel more fulfilled as a parent.

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1. Boost your child’s self-esteem: Kids start developing their sense of self as babies when they see themselves through their parents’ eyes. Your tone of voice, your body language, and your every expression are absorbed by your kids. Your words and actions as a parent affect their developing self-esteem more than anything else.

2. Praising accomplishments: However small, will make them feel proud; letting kids do things independently will make them feel capable and strong. By contrast, belittling comments or comparing a child unfavorably with another will make kids feel worthless.

3. Avoid making loaded statements or using words as weapons: Comments like “What a stupid thing to do!” or “You act more like a baby than your little brother!” cause damage just as physical blows do.

4. Choose your words carefully and be compassionate: Let your kids know that everyone makes mistakes and that you still love them, even when you don’t love their behavior.

5. Catch Kids Being Good: Have you ever stopped to think about how many times you react negatively to your kids in a given day? You may find yourself criticising far more often than complementing. How would you feel about a boss who treated you with that much negative guidance, even if it was well intentioned?

6. Make a point of finding something to praise every day: Be generous with rewards — your love, hugs, and compliments can work wonders and are often reward enough. Soon you will find you are “growing” more of the behaviour you would like to see.

7. Set Limits and Be Consistent With Your Discipline: Order is necessary in every household. The goal of discipline is to help kids choose acceptable behaviours and learn self-control. They may test the limits you establish for them, but they need those limits to grow into responsible adults.

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